Some people think that dating after divorce, or after a break-up must be awkward as they’ve been out of practice for so long. It’s a second chance at doing something you thought you’d never do again. Also, bear in mind that some dates will be horrendous. (Personally I’d recommend The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationships by Letting Yourself Be Loved by Harville Hendrix and Helen La Kelly Hunt, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr.Sue Johnson and The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, the latter won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but I love it, as does many of my friends.)When it comes to online dating it’s the same thing – if you aren’t used to it, read up on it first.And think about this for a while: you are on your way of finding someone with whom you’ll have better sex than you’ve ever had before. So read some books about sex whilst you still have the time…You can also find plenty of tips regarding dating, sex, and relationships in my past You Queen articles.By: Julie Peirano Regardless of who initiated the split, divorce takes quite a toll on a person.Maybe their finances went to shit after the relationship ended.Maybe they let themselves go during the relationship. There’s nothing people love more than a dragon slaying prince or princess.You don’t have to tackle all goals at the same time either – take one step at a time.Dating after divorce, or after breaking up a long relationship often makes people feel squeamish because they have to confess that their last relationship didn’t end well.
It is, believe it or not, attractive to see someone overcome their struggles, as opposed to pretending they never had them.
If you fear social events, read a book about pick-up skills (it’s actually a lot about learning how to approach people, never mind getting them in bed) and challenge yourself to talk to strangers.
If it’s too scary in your own town, go on a road trip for a weekend.
When you have a divorce, or break up a relationship, chances are you will ask yourself what went wrong and why. To allow for that to happen, we have to let the past go.
You might be angry with yourself, either for having stayed in the relationship for as long as you did, or for having caused problems in the relationship, or simply not tried hard enough to make it a great relationship. You can’t redo the past, but you can make sure that in the future you act differently.